Conflict: Let’s Talk About It!

 Conflict is an inevitable part of life. Whether it occurs in our relationships, workplaces, or communities, conflicts can often lead to tension, hurt feelings, and damaged relationships. As followers of Christ, it is essential for us to approach conflict resolution in a way that aligns with His teachings of love, forgiveness, and reconciliation. In this blog, we will explore practical steps to resolve conflict in a manner that pleases Christ. Before engaging in conflict resolution, it is crucial to seek God's guidance through prayer. We must seek Him for wisdom, understanding, and the ability to approach the situation with humility and love, and asking the Holy Spirit to guide our words and actions throughout the process.

Instead of avoiding or engaging further in conflict, we must address the issue directly with the person that we are in conflict with. We should most definitely, be strategic in choosing the best time and place to have a calm and private conversation, allowing ourselves to have a better chance at a more positive outcome. Of course, it's 100% ok to express your concerns, but we must do so in a gentle and respectful manner, focusing on the behavior or issue at hand rather than attacking the person. Trust me, I completely understand that being calm in some situations can be challenging, but it is possible.

Conflict resolution also involves active listening, which means that we are giving the other person our undivided attention. It is important to try our best to understand their perspective, emotions, and concerns, rather, only focusing on our own. Approaching the conflict with a heart of empathy, helps create an atmosphere of trust and open communication for all parties. When we choose speak words that builds up, or brings life to one another, it closes the door to tearing one another down. We are God’s children, so we should seek to represent Him, even within conflict. We should ALWAYS speak truthfully, but with kindness and love. Kindness and love will also help to bring forth forgiveness, which of course, does not always come immediately. However, if we seek first His Kingdom ………..well, you know the rest lol! In some cases, conflicts may be too complex or deeply rooted for individuals to resolve on their own. In such situations, seeking the help of a trusted mediator, such as a pastor or counselor, can be beneficial. Mediation provides a neutral space for both parties to express their concerns and work towards a mutually agreeable resolution.

”A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.“ Proverbs‬ ‭15‬:‭1‬ ‭NIV

”If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.“ Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭18‬ ‭NIV‬‬

”But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.“

‭‭Matthew‬ ‭6‬:‭33‬ ‭NIV‬‬