Single and Ready to Mingle

Have you discovered that dating as a Christian in today’s society, has been nothing more than CHALLENGING? Are you SINGLE AND READY TO MINGLE, and found that you have had to LOWER YOUR STANDARDS, in attempts from being lonely at night? Even if you have STOOD YOUR GROUND, while exploring the depths of the dating pool, I am sure that you have had moments when you were SO CLOSE to conforming to the ways of the worldly. They look good, smell good, sound good, they even profess to be a Christian…………. HOWEVER, everything about them screams, JEZEBEL SPIRIT!  Your flesh is pulling you into one direction, and your spirit is pulling you into another direction. I get it! There appears to be some very attractive, educated, established “Christian” people out hear, however, their  secret desires are not reflective of the God that they claim to serve, leaving you feeling confused, uninspired, and just READY TO GIVE UP, and for some…………… READY TO GIVE IN.

I was born in a time when  marriage was JUST WHAT YOU DID. It was the expected next stage of life for a person in their early 20’s. Everyone that was in my immediate circle, was married, which laid out a great plan of expectations for me. I can remember being as young as 9 years of age, hearing my pastor speaking on marriage, and how that interested me so much! I loved hearing him preach on marriage; he preached, and I listened. I was NEVER that girl that fantasized about my wedding day, like so many others; I would sit and fantasize about my MARRIAGE. I just could not wait to meet my husband and start a family! Marriage seemed right. Marriage seemed like that was part of being a woman. Little did I know, my marriage would be NOTHING like the fantasies that invaded my imagination as a child. Now, like SO MANY others, I am SINGLE, however,I am not so sure that I am READY TO MINGLE. After coming out of a chaotic, 8 year marriage, I have come to discover that dating in today’s society, has become more challenging and discouraging. Those in the dating pool, seem to be just as hormonal and emotionally unstable, as teenagers in high school. No one seems to desire marriage, more than they desire the freedom to roam around on sexual social media posts, strip clubs, and in the bed of whomever they desire.

The Word of God COMMANDS us to NOT be yoked with unbelievers. Yes, I know they go to church weekly, can quote Bible scriptures, pray before they go to bed and when they arise in the morning, and they may even hold a title within the church…………….. HOWEVER, their personal life is DARK, manipulative, and full of sexual predatory activity. As a Christian, we are called to BE THE LIGHT, so, what is our fellowship with darkness, other than bringing the light? We are children of  God, and we must walk in our identity, especially, in a dark and self righteous world. SINGLENESS is NOT a prison sentence, as a matter of fact, it’s a blessing, because we can use that time to build a more intimate relationship with GOD, and with SELF. SINGLENESS is also a time to allow for God to heal and mold us into a KINGDOM SPOUSE, if marriage is what He has ordained for us. There’s nothing wrong with being SINGLE AND READY TO MINGLE, as long as we understand that we are to be the LIGHT in a DARK world of dating. Any person that does not desire to be who God has created for them to be, will not respect who God has created for us to be, which is a clear indication that we need to MINGLE SOMEWHERE ELSE! I want to encourage you on today, to STAND YOUR GROUND, not conforming to the ways of the world. You are special, loved and you are GOD’S CHILD! You are the LIGHT in this DARK world of dating.

"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14 NIV