Toxic Relationships
Did you know that bad company has a miraculous way of corrupting good character? Just think back to the days of your youth and how Becky, Larry, Keisha and them convinced you to sneak around, doing things that you know good and well, your momma taught you NOT to do. You were successful at coming in at curfew and staying away from the drinks and smokes, but as soon as you started hanging around the crew, it was all or nothing! All of the rules, morals and obedience went right out of the door. Well, that’s because the bad company that you chose to hang around, corrupted all that your parents, grandparents / guardian installed into you. You may have discovered that life with the crew, was way more exciting than the rules and regulations within your home environment. You may have realized that disobedience was more stimulating than the obedience that you once strived to live in. Now, fast forward to your present day, can you think of any person, place or thing, that has corrupted your morals and judgements, moving you out of alignment with God, though you worked so hard to put away childish things and to become the adult that you strive to be?
“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”” 1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV
A good way to end toxic relationships, is to put an end to them. They say, when you know better, you do better, but that just is not always true. Many times, we know better and still don’t make the necessary changes to grow, heal and to move forward in relationships and life as a whole. David knew better, as a matter of fact, he was stated in the Bible to be a man after God’s heart, however…………….. David had many ratchet moments! I mean, the man slept with another man’s wife and then, had him killed because he impregnated her. He definitely, knew better, but unfortunately, his insecurities and selfish desires caused for him not to do better. Take a moment to think about that toxic relationship with someone that you dated (or dating), was there a nudge in your spirit telling you that person was just so wrong for you, however…………… YOU STAYED ANYWAY? What about that friendship that does not really seem so friendly, unless that individual is in need of something from you? Let’s face it, it’s not easy ending relationships, even the most toxic ones, but we must realize that toxic relationships can become very dangerous, if we don’t put an end to them.
“Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (Now she was purifying herself from her monthly uncleanness.) Then she went back home. The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, “I am pregnant.” 2 Samuel 11:4-5 NIV
“In the morning David wrote a letter to Joab and sent it with Uriah. In it he wrote, “Put Uriah out in front where the fighting is fiercest. Then withdraw from him so he will be struck down and die.”” 2 Samuel 11:14-15 NIV
If we are always in a place of pain, due to the rejection, seclusion and psychological mind games from those toxic relationships, how can we be all that God has ordained for us to be? To be honest, it does not matter what kind of relationship it is (family, friend, work, church, self), we harm ourselves greatly, by allowing for the toxins to stay in our lives. Toxins are poisons that comes ONLY to KILL, STEAL and to DESTROY ALL that God has for us. I want to encourage you to SET BOUNDARIES, even if it’s for yourself. Like Nehemiah, build a wall, keeping out the enemy and protecting what’s most precious to you. You are God’s masterpiece whom He adores. What God has for you will NEVER be TOXIC but will be full of healing and everything that is good, even if it comes with challenges. LET GO of what’s KILLING and EMBRACE what is giving you LIFE!
“Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. You may be sure that such people are warped and sinful; they are self-condemned.” Titus 3:10-11 NIV
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